It may seem, to some, easier to be a statistic than to rise above what the general public now accept as the norm. Why is it so much easier to be (stay) a statistic? Why does it seem so easy to follow mainstream beliefs always, instead of investigating something for ones self? Why does the mainstream feel so wrong to so many? Why do so many go with it anyway?
Merriam Webster defines mainstream as : a prevailing current or direction of activity or influence.
If people truly begin to question the statistics we are fed by media, university's, and our government, and take a good look at the numbers, maybe we would begin to look past the numbers and see the people these numbers represent. Where might this get us?
Be more kind than necessary. Remember that everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.
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Showing posts with label feelings. Show all posts
Showing posts with label feelings. Show all posts
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Sunday, January 20, 2008
When you go back to work...
Happy Sunday!
Niki and I stayed up late reading some of our new books and doing about 10 elementary chemistry experiments. We had a blast. Niki almost always picks a favorite step of something, a song, a movie, a science experiment, to repeat randomly whenever the mood strikes. You never know what step in the process Niki will choose, in other words she is unpredictable. I love that about her! We did an experiment using balloons and in the process of tieing one of the balloons after blowing it up, I let it go, on purpose bc I thought it would be funny. Yes, I am as equally easy to please as my children. Anyway, out of all the experiments we did with the water and salt, and sand, and sugar and tasting and the balloons, her favorite part was the balloon spinning wildly out of control around our kitchen light fixture. I think that spinning balloon is the only reason she remembered this morning the discussion on matter, solids, liquids, and gases @ midnight last night. If she were in a regular brain numbing classroom, I am certain she wouldn't have had that experience, but maybe she would recall the teacher and a different experiment.
It is moments similar to last night leading me to believe I will unschool my children as long as they are interested. Today though, a few members of the family (we eat Sunday dinner @ my mom's with the whole family) commented about when I go back to work...why does this keep coming up people? I hope I never have to work full time while the kids are small. Maybe one day I will go back to work full time. Honestly, I hope not(again while the kids are small.) If I do HAVE to return to work, while the kids are small, I hope it will be somewhere I feel as thought I can be myself. I no longer believe I can work in an office. I have an insatiable love for the outdoors. I am missing it a great deal since the last few days it has been too cold to go out. If I had to go back to work I hope I could find something outside with plants or animals maybe. I cannot predict the future but I can tell you what I know. I know everyday I fall more in love with my family and I know I could not place them in a daycare the same way I know I could not place my parents in a Retirement Center or Nursing Home. I also know my family all my family, parents, aunts, adopted grandparents, support me and will love me no matter if I go back to work or not. I suppose I just don't like to hear words that cause me to even contemplate leaving the little ones right now. The same way I didn't want everyone to continue talking about the boys needing a hair cut...
Niki and I stayed up late reading some of our new books and doing about 10 elementary chemistry experiments. We had a blast. Niki almost always picks a favorite step of something, a song, a movie, a science experiment, to repeat randomly whenever the mood strikes. You never know what step in the process Niki will choose, in other words she is unpredictable. I love that about her! We did an experiment using balloons and in the process of tieing one of the balloons after blowing it up, I let it go, on purpose bc I thought it would be funny. Yes, I am as equally easy to please as my children. Anyway, out of all the experiments we did with the water and salt, and sand, and sugar and tasting and the balloons, her favorite part was the balloon spinning wildly out of control around our kitchen light fixture. I think that spinning balloon is the only reason she remembered this morning the discussion on matter, solids, liquids, and gases @ midnight last night. If she were in a regular brain numbing classroom, I am certain she wouldn't have had that experience, but maybe she would recall the teacher and a different experiment.
It is moments similar to last night leading me to believe I will unschool my children as long as they are interested. Today though, a few members of the family (we eat Sunday dinner @ my mom's with the whole family) commented about when I go back to work...why does this keep coming up people? I hope I never have to work full time while the kids are small. Maybe one day I will go back to work full time. Honestly, I hope not(again while the kids are small.) If I do HAVE to return to work, while the kids are small, I hope it will be somewhere I feel as thought I can be myself. I no longer believe I can work in an office. I have an insatiable love for the outdoors. I am missing it a great deal since the last few days it has been too cold to go out. If I had to go back to work I hope I could find something outside with plants or animals maybe. I cannot predict the future but I can tell you what I know. I know everyday I fall more in love with my family and I know I could not place them in a daycare the same way I know I could not place my parents in a Retirement Center or Nursing Home. I also know my family all my family, parents, aunts, adopted grandparents, support me and will love me no matter if I go back to work or not. I suppose I just don't like to hear words that cause me to even contemplate leaving the little ones right now. The same way I didn't want everyone to continue talking about the boys needing a hair cut...
Monday, January 14, 2008
You want me to what?
The last few days Dom has been talking to me about going back to work...ARE YOU CRAZY, I ask.
I don't want to leave our kids with strangers that could never appreciate them like I do, let alone love them.
Secondly, doesn't he remember I was only working to pay for day care for 4 kids and fuel?
Is school really where the 2 eldest children need to be learning? I don't like what they are teaching in those buildings.
Dom is also talking about going on another deployment. Which, once again, apparently I have no say in.
It is hard enough on everyone with him being gone let alone for me to have to go back to work.
When he was on the last deployment and the twins were born, I was a wreck. I was screaming @ the kids, never sleeping, and I gained 25 lbs after I had lost all the baby weight! My family helped when they could, but come on, people have a life. Mady had 2 hours of school work after being @ school for 7 hours plus after school activities and I was breastfeeding. Niki is almost school age and I cannot imagine having to sit down and force her to learn to read plus help Mady with homework and take care of the house, bills, yard, an outside career and the kids! While I am telling Dom all this, as if I need to justify not having a "paying job," he sits on the sofa shaking his head.
It all began, I think, when he visited a friend he rarely talks with these days. The "friend" in question had just purchased a new street bike. First of all, how old are you? Secondly, this friend has no children and a girlfriend that makes an average salary contributing to bills as well. Dom's friend also owns a new home and a few vehicles. They are in debt up to their...well frankly over their heads. If someone doesn't get paid something will be repoed soon.
Dom mentioned that it would be nice to have extra money. For me it would only be nice to have extra money if I can come by it without having to leave the kids. I do not believe there is anything the kids can learn @ school that they cannot learn from living day to day life. Then Dom says, "What if you screw them up more by keeping them home?"
I have confidence the kids will grow to be well adjusted contributing members of society...and if they don't, I will love them anyway. I am their mom. My head is spinning just trying to think of some way to earn a little money from home to offset some bills so we can have some "extra" money.
When it comes right down to it though, will that really make us happy? I don't think so. I am so incredibly tired of outside sources defining how my family think and behave. I feel I have very little influence on Dom. I read constantly and when I mention something I am concerned about he seems uninterested and can only regurgitate things he has been told (military) or heard on the news (censored.) I suppose the only answer is to look for a part time job on the weekends.
I have a picture in my mind's eye of how things will be around here...but I suppose we all have to compromise sometimes.
I don't want to leave our kids with strangers that could never appreciate them like I do, let alone love them.
Secondly, doesn't he remember I was only working to pay for day care for 4 kids and fuel?
Is school really where the 2 eldest children need to be learning? I don't like what they are teaching in those buildings.
Dom is also talking about going on another deployment. Which, once again, apparently I have no say in.
It is hard enough on everyone with him being gone let alone for me to have to go back to work.
When he was on the last deployment and the twins were born, I was a wreck. I was screaming @ the kids, never sleeping, and I gained 25 lbs after I had lost all the baby weight! My family helped when they could, but come on, people have a life. Mady had 2 hours of school work after being @ school for 7 hours plus after school activities and I was breastfeeding. Niki is almost school age and I cannot imagine having to sit down and force her to learn to read plus help Mady with homework and take care of the house, bills, yard, an outside career and the kids! While I am telling Dom all this, as if I need to justify not having a "paying job," he sits on the sofa shaking his head.
It all began, I think, when he visited a friend he rarely talks with these days. The "friend" in question had just purchased a new street bike. First of all, how old are you? Secondly, this friend has no children and a girlfriend that makes an average salary contributing to bills as well. Dom's friend also owns a new home and a few vehicles. They are in debt up to their...well frankly over their heads. If someone doesn't get paid something will be repoed soon.
Dom mentioned that it would be nice to have extra money. For me it would only be nice to have extra money if I can come by it without having to leave the kids. I do not believe there is anything the kids can learn @ school that they cannot learn from living day to day life. Then Dom says, "What if you screw them up more by keeping them home?"
I have confidence the kids will grow to be well adjusted contributing members of society...and if they don't, I will love them anyway. I am their mom. My head is spinning just trying to think of some way to earn a little money from home to offset some bills so we can have some "extra" money.
When it comes right down to it though, will that really make us happy? I don't think so. I am so incredibly tired of outside sources defining how my family think and behave. I feel I have very little influence on Dom. I read constantly and when I mention something I am concerned about he seems uninterested and can only regurgitate things he has been told (military) or heard on the news (censored.) I suppose the only answer is to look for a part time job on the weekends.
I have a picture in my mind's eye of how things will be around here...but I suppose we all have to compromise sometimes.
Monday, January 7, 2008
Do you let "others" determine...
things for you? Do you let others determine what your kids will learn, what you read, eat, how you should run your household, what career you will have, even where you will spend your day and when you will go somehwere? I mean someone besides your close immediate family of course. I do not make New Year's resolutions so I have a chance to start something I want to any time. For that matter, every moment is new, so why wait until a day some ancient people designated as a new beginning to try to make yourself who you think you want to be.
I made a decision today to make sure I speak up for myself more. If I do not speak up for myself how will my needs be met? I get bogged down by trying to be "nice" and eventually I almost (or do) burst into a complete fit bc I feel no one is being considerate of my feelings. How can you accuse someone of being inconsiderate of your feelings if they never knew what they were? So if you are straight forward and maybe a little sarcastic about it, is that considered snarky?
I made a decision today to make sure I speak up for myself more. If I do not speak up for myself how will my needs be met? I get bogged down by trying to be "nice" and eventually I almost (or do) burst into a complete fit bc I feel no one is being considerate of my feelings. How can you accuse someone of being inconsiderate of your feelings if they never knew what they were? So if you are straight forward and maybe a little sarcastic about it, is that considered snarky?
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